Most people don’t want to deal with conflict yet it is a part of everyday life. It exists between family members, in the world and within ourselves. Understandably, it can be extremely distressing having to engage in a clash while thrashing in uncertainty.
Conflict requires a lot of energy and if one is not careful, it can leave you feeling depleted. A lot of unnecessary grief is encountered if we treat every challenge with the same intensity. It’s incredibly helpful to possess a healthy level of discernment because not every struggle requires your precious power.
The great news is that despite the difficulties, conflict creates plenty of growth opportunities.
New Ideas: It’s advantageous to fine-tune our ideas against another person’s perception as it will affirm what we believe or change it. Through discussion, we can uncover unique solutions while bonding and establishing genuine connections.
Verbalize Needs: By taking a stand and speaking up we become more resilient and less fearful. Through assertion, we are compelled to choose who we are. In turn, this sharpens our convictions which will determine our success.
Be Flexible: It’s great to have a winning argument but it’s more important to remain humble. This means, be open to the possibility of changing your position and/or accepting a loss. Bear in mind that a ton of discipline is required to not always be right. We need to keep our ego in-check otherwise others will view us as disagreeable and controlling.
Listen Up: The key to successful conflict resolution is the ability to really listen. Active listening provides access to the information we need to make wise decisions. It also presents the opportunity to control impulses to speak which a great way to develop patience.
Recognize Behavioural Patterns: It’s fundamental to learn how others work, their communication styles and points of view. The capacity to observe patterns creates predictability which makes us more effective in our relationships as it can be especially useful in negotiations.
Practice Communication Skills: When confronted with conflict, most would rather locate the closest exit and leave the scene, pronto. But it’s valuable to shift our mindset to accept the challenges to expand our self-control, perseverance and agility. Since so much is at stake, we are almost forced to ensure that we’re being effective communicators.
Set Boundaries: People create borders in order to know where they start and stop. The need to establish limits is conducive to forming a framework which preserves the respect and integrity of all. Restraint teaches us to back off and when to ask others to do the same.
With the right attitude, conflict doesn’t have to be a war and everyone can win. The next time you find yourself in strife, try to consider it as a prospect to evolve and be open to the element of surprise.