A Waist Is A Terrible Thing To Mind.


Our society promotes a very disjointed, obsessive and sometimes dangerous approach to health, well-being and beauty. The covers of magazines are graced with slim bodies and happy, acne-free faces. Celebrities are revered as gods while the truth is hidden in plain sight. Digital enhancements are used to punish the masses for having cellulite.

So why is this happening?

There is no money to be made if everyone was secure within themselves and not trying to keep up with the Kardashians. Not everything you see advertised or sold on a shelf is for meant for your betterment despite the claims. If we are to follow and believe everything we’re told then who do we blame for our unhappiness?

All of life’s problems will not go away once you’ve whittled your waist to satisfaction. The body is a wonderful vehicle of systems and organs which allow us to move through life. Much like a car, the better you treat it the more you’ll get out of it. However, the body isn’t everything yet most (if not all) of the emphasis is placed on the physical. It’s easier to create products and services for the exterior such as creams, clothes and cosmetic surgery. Seems simple enough to measure your success by the size of your jeans. Trouble is that this type of metric leaves us feeling trapped and depressed.

We’ve been trained to skim the surface without delving further to address the root of the problem(s). A superficial approach to life provides a limited understanding of its parts.

The weight loss industry is nothing more than a multi-billion hocus-pocus show run by fraudsters who prey on the vulnerable. I, too, fell for numerous plots which promised a lot but delivered nothing.  It took some time to understand that if anything was to change then it was up to me. I got myself into this mess and I have the power to get out. I took (and still take) an active interest in learning about better health – mental, emotional and physical.

I counted calories for awhile and even attended a Weight Watchers meeting. Some of the members were puzzled as to why I was there because I seemed okay but my relationship with food was warped. I was about 15-20 pounds over my healthy weight and uncomfortable in my skin. It was on the forefront of my mind and a battle that I faced each day for a period of time.

What changed?

I began to cultivate a deeper love for myself and made my health a top priority. I walked away from unhappy situations whether they were related to work or people. I focused on things which would bring me closer to my goals. I wrote my feelings down instead of eating them. I became acquainted with who I am and learned to accept what I might discover. I had to be honest with myself and others. I stopped playing a victim of circumstance and took control of what I could and forgot the rest.

Was it easy?

Absolutely not! It does get easier with time but it takes consistent effort, each and every single day. I still haven’t had a cigarette this year but I sure do miss it every now and then. The past few days have been particularly challenging and the temptation has been great. Some stuff never goes away despite how disciplined we are. That’s something to keep in mind because it’s never smooth sailing regardless of how easy some people make it look.  All those choices, big and small, which we make from the time we wake up to the moment we go to sleep are what matter most. You will never be out of the woods because let’s face it, life is an ever-changing occurrence.

If something ever feels like it’s missing, it’s probably love.